The label “fake” is being thrown about a lot in this day in age, and the definition and the way it is being used, well it seems to be a little overused, generalised and undefined.
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations when we don’t feel comfortable, self assured or confident.
This can sometimes mean we behave in ways that we may not be proud of, but you know – we all have flaws.
This doesn’t make us fake, sometimes it can show traits of high self-control and strength.
And here is why…
Just because we didn’t really get on with Brenda last year, it doesn’t mean we are being fake because we now like her. Maybe we grew? Maybe she grew? Maybe we opened our mind?
Maybe we understand her a bit better now? We are entitled to change our opinion.
This doesn’t make us fake.
This shows growth.
We get up, be strong, and put the biggest smile on our face – and face the world. When in reality all we really feel like doing is curling up in a ball, and crying uncontrollably for the what seems like the remainder of our life. This doesn’t make us fake.
This shows determination and dignity.
People can hurt us, treat us bad, and make us feel sad. Our natural reaction is to feel angry, retaliate and voice our opinion on the matter. But we rise above, ignore, and kill them with kindness.
This doesn’t make us fake. This shows self-respect.
We can behave differently in certain social circles, from raving the night away with friends, to being super professional and efficient in a meeting the next day. This isn’t being fake.
This shows we can adapt and have diversity.
We’re not all perfect. That’s a fact. We can sometimes say or do things to hurt others, and we can talk about people behind their backs.
I think everyone can be guilty of this, as long as this isn’t something we get great joy out of, or do regularly.
This just shows we have flaws and insecurities.
So I think before we label anyone “fake” we could simply delve a little deeper to try and understand the reasons behind peoples actions, and kinda realise that we can (as the kids call it these days) all be a little “fake” now and again.